Overcoming Aspergers Through Skill

Of all the disorders, diseases, ailments, etc. in the world, Aspergers is in a very unique place. From the way I look at Aspergers, it is one of the few disorders in which a person can make their life infinitely better simply through the pursuit of knowledge. Doesn’t matter how much you study about cancer, it will not go away. Have an immune system issue? Can’t solve that with knowledge. (Directly anyway).

But with Aspergers, the “bad” parts can be mostly, if not all, resolved simply through acquiring different skills.

See, we see everything as a skill. EVERYTHING. The most obvious skill that people with Aspergers usually need to learn are social skills. You frequently see this as the “one” thing that defines Aspergers. Lack of social skills. But what about the other skills? Awareness? Learning to deal with sensory issues? Emotional Intelligence?

Everything that makes up the diagnosis of “Aspergers” can easily be changed into a skill that needs to be learned. The good thing is, skills all obey the same basic laws: Practice, Repetition, Course-Correction. It doesn’t matter if you are learning how to play the piano or how to be more present in the world, you start by practicing. Every day. Then you figure out what you are doing wrong, and course correct.

One the best ways that Hayden and I both know to learn new skills related to living is through the use of books.

Watch the video below to see Danny talk about how he “learned” himself out of the difficult areas of Aspergers, as well as what books he recommends.

Books mentioned in the video:

How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
Unlimited Power by Anthony Robbins
The New Psycho-Cybernetics by Dr. Maxwell Maltz M.D. F.I.C.S.
The Aladdin Factor by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen
I Will Teach You To Be Rich by Ramit Sethi
Core Transformation: Reaching The Wellspring Within by Tamara and Connirae Andreas

11 thoughts on “Overcoming Aspergers Through Skill

  1. im 55 now was call shy when i was 16 in high school didn’t know why i seem different today im not much on having friends

  2. As an 18 year old am not allowed to do so many things I feel really inferior to everyone I am not allowed to have a phone to be on facebook,what’s app etc all because of aspergers

  3. As a 27 year old with Asperger’s Syndrome as a college student . At the moment there is a growing tiredness of struggling when it comes to dealing with people. I used to be super social ad just stopped as soon as i realized dealing with certain social situations. So in truth i have also been shutting out my emotions. At this point i’ve become sick and tired of struggling i wanna do something about it. I’m sik of struggle I wanna overcome and finally feel like the world isn’t so overpowered. I’ve dealt with many struggles on my own.

    The only question I wonder is above all? Will society come to accept us. Cause i think that they don’t.

  4. “How to win friends and influence people” – I also read the book several years ago when I was trying to figure out how to self diagnose my self and survive. You guys might also might like to look at a book on Transactional Analysis. I read this book several years ago. The author’s last name was Berne. There is also another book out called “I ‘me OK, Your OK” that also covers the subject of Transactional Analysis. Transactional Analysis analyses the process of how two people communicate back and forth to each other by levels. It uses a level model that I think that most Aspies can learn and benefit from. The level are: parent, adult, and child.

  5. Danny! You are a remarkable person! I am going to show your video’s to my son this weekend…and get the books. My son is 13.He cannot DISENGAGE when he is teased, or when kids start fight’s with him. We are trying to teach him skills like saying,”REALLY”? and walk away, rather than engaging with these USE-LESS kids….which they are. He tries to hard to make friend’s, then he annoys them and they are mean to him…his hurt shows up as anger……is there ANY way he could Skype with you???? I think HEARING what the world is like from you, and YOU giving him advice, rather than his mom all the time would help! Thank you so much..I am hoping your videos will help him. ( Mom) Lori

  6. Guys,
    I am very thankful for the info you have shared so far. I would love to know more. My Aspie son,Damon is starting high school this year. I feel like he can do more than what he has shown up to this point. He has not demonstrated all the skills I think he needs to be independent. He has come a tremendous way and we celebrate every gain and skills learned. He is a surprise a minute. He is such a great young man. Thank you again for sharing insight for what you have already endured and what many of us parents are yet facing. Sometimes he just gets stuck on something. Often he tries to use it to his advantage. I am a special education teacher by day and by night, I am the Aspie mom trying to help work through frustrations for my adorable son. I want him to be all that he can be and all that he desires for himself. I also try to be realistic about what the future holds.

    1. Hi my names Caleb I’m 19 years old with Asperger, I have problems with being sociable with people, I also suffer from stress, depression and anxiety. This morning when I was getting ready for college that they said people with autism live until they are 54 I just wondered if you know if this was true? I also need help with stuff I said already. Please help me!

      1. Caleb, I am sorry that you are dealing with these issues. I just wanted to reassure you that the idea that people with autism have a limited lifespan has no truth.For concrete evidence see Temple Grandin, for example, who is now 67 and doing very well, as I trust you will too in the future.
        I wish you well. I know how difficult it can be at times.


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