When I was in elementary school, math was one of my favorite subjects. I loved it! It had rules, and I could understand it. Then came middle school. Everything switched. Math suddenly had letters, and the rules weren’t as concrete. So I started to loathe it. So much so that I would get extremely anxious at doing it, and always wound myself really tight. It would take me an hour to calm down and get out of meltdown enough to try again.
This is a pretty common problem with people with Aspergers. A lot of parents have written, called, and asked us questions over the past few days. The #1 question we got asked was “How Do I get my child to do x?” Replace x with any issue.
One parent messaged us on Facebook, with a question on how to get her daughter to do her math homework without freaking out, getting extremely anxious, and then having a meltdown (sound familiar?) So we answered her question, then decided that everyone needed to hear the answer.
What we teach in this video is based on the concept of “Small Commitments”. See, people are more likely to do something when they have made a smaller commitment to it first. (It ties in with teaching your child Conscious Decision)
This works especially well in people with Aspergers, because you can show them that something that causes a lot of anxiety (like school), can actually be easy and fun. But in order to do this, you need to have them engage in small commitments first. (Write one sentence, do one math problem, read one paragraph, etc).
This concept can be applied to other things besides school as well, like trying new foods, going to new places, or meeting new people. We would love to hear your comments on how this has worked (or not) for your family. Go ahead and leave a comment below.