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tonight started a long time ago

Susan M C



so this is my first spot to 'blog'.  I looked at the 'tags' and decided on none.  but I would like to, say, wirite a little something on these topics/tags.  anyway, I also don't like capital letters, but should try, I think, to use them.  They make it more interesting to type.  Thank you I tell myself.  I also like to use commas, since for the longest time, I have created sentences which are long.  

I was diagnosed with Autism on Dec. 12, 2012.  It's true, I believe, that I could have been diagnosed earlier in life, but for the fact that I was diagnosed schizophrenic when I was in my teens, at some point.  I remember not being able to handle being on vacation, and I sat on the top of the car, and cried and screamed, even, I think, until my parents left the campground.  I was only about 12, or 9.  Nine years of age seems to be a year I can remember a lot from, then my pre-teen, teen years.  

I rememeber saying to myself, when I was 6, "How come those girls are talking to each other?"  I saw no point.  I wondr about the precociousness of that thinking.  I shall look up precocious.  Then I shall return here.  hold on.  so, I did look it up.  It doesn't seem to fit.  Now I know somewhat of why people talk to each other-- though I am abused by my spouse, left alone and told to go to my room, where I find being alone both hard, and upsetting.  I don't want to be by myself all the itme.  I have sons and daughters and think I deserve some company sometimes.  Since my husband pulled them all to himself, being a sick man, can't stand to be alone, and which makes him to be TOO much for me, and since he demands so much attention from me that he can't stand me having an opinion of my own, different from his, (making me, in his mind, "argumentative")  and since I can't stand being in his brain at ALL anymore, I have ended up deciding to GO to my ROOM when they are around, or he is acting like a bully to me.  When he acts badly towards my son, *, I stay around and stick up for my son, because I think sometimes that I am keeping him safe from his father..... They have thrown picnic tables over in a 'fight' of some kind last summer..  I have to get the dog and get him out of there, and then go 'witness' things, hoping to be peacemaker for them...

I've just come back after several hours.  I want to explain something.  My son took one of my hamburgers.  You see, I have been eating less than okay, as far as I think about eating cereal too often, and not enough protein, so I cooked my package of hamburger tonight, and told him that he can't have any, there is none for him, and he took one anyway.  And, you see, they make fun of me, and mock or deny my existance, as a separate human being with needs!  Okay, my interpretation of what is happening to me,... I admit to not understanding, or not being able to do what is necessary for my (own) well-being and my voice to be heard.  I say something, and it is as if I didn't say a thing.  As if I am not understood, as if I don't speak the same language, I don't speak English, and they don't have to care, listen, heed.  I am a moot person, personality.  As if I don't have a body, I am a voice--ignored, not real.  Well, that might be how I feel, anyways.  SO, though, tonight I yelled at him, after he had taken the burger, and he denied it, said the dog took it, and continued to mock me, so I slammed the door, and went into the kitchen and stomped my feet- twice.  I had said to myself, they don't believe me, HE doesn't believe me, that I'm angry about this, that I was serious when I said don't touch the burgers, they are mine.  So, I also said, I'm done, I'm not mad anymore.  It's over.  He had come upstairs and said, Here, here's a five for your burger, or THE burger.   The point is, I didn't want his money, not even after he took it.... What I had desired is for him, and ALL of them, to acknowledge what I said, and to leave the burgers for me.   I have gotten a little bit of a headache on the left side of my head, now, and I attribute it to the stomping of my feet.  After all I am going on 62.  Lol  Oh, well, whatever works.  You see, too, I had felt to let him know I was really mad, I stomped my feet, so I wouldn't be denied that I really meant it.  You see, they always take my food and I just couldn't get that mad about it, but lately, and even since I thought today, that they just don't like me, could do fine, or better, without me, that maybe I'd have to die for them to regret anything they'd done to me in life.... and the fact that I think I've lost strength, due to the fact that I've not eaten that well, for maybe years, and ignored, and denied myself any righteousness and upholding of my command, my authority over my own food... I have allergies, and specific food preferences which are very hard and impossible for me to deviate from, and when they take the very food I am dependent on for life, well, I ought to get mad.  I am a little ashamed for stomping my feet, but he deserved to feel aahamed, too, for taking it...  I have always worried, and not wanted them to feel shame, my sons, especially "*, but I must let them learn that it's not right to take advantage of me, I am their mother.... which leaves me feeling weird because I stomped my feet... out of control🙄

So now what do I do?  I'll leave it with that question.  What do I do now?  I guess I'll look at him and say, Why did I have to do that to get your attention?  Please!

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Im back. Ive had some good, as well as bad things going on in my life since the post, (above?). Ive had some really horrible reactions to my environment, and gained some control over myself in some areas. This relates to my feeling safe in my environment and to my feeling that i have some control over my environment, also related or relative to my feeling safe in the world, amidst unrest and feeling satisfied i will be okay no matter what. 

At night, usually late at midnight or beyond, I have had awful anxiety.  Seeing no answer to my 'fear' i decided to go to sleep. I go to sleep with videos i like, more often than not, although lately i have been getting up early, sometimes 4am.  

All in all, I think I am doing alright. I am like a child, though.. It's hard getting the things done i need to do. It always takes me a LONG time..I attribute it to needing to concentrate on all the little details, and not getting to a place where I will have a meltdown.. no one will help me if i get there.  no one is going to talk tome if i get depressed... I have said some things to family that i wish i hadn't and it takes a while like days usually, to feel better. That is definitely a problem of mine, but they DO get me so mad and i am usually truly sorry after thoughtfully carefully reasoning everything out over time. like several days. I really dont like (i am avoiding the extreme of the word "hate") not being able to keep myself from yelling or being sarcastic..it just comes out inthe moment as though i have no. control.   but they ARE mean to me. i take it over and over, without response til i can take no more.  I think what happens is mybrain goes mute when i want to answer them correctly...but they laugh and are adamant that I'm wrong always. they also gang up on me. Through some of the 'material' here i know there is a different way things could be and then i become more content with my life cause it's not just me..thats one thing or the main thing, why i am attracted to AE

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being alone, isolated, in the world, seems fairly hard, since having family makes having my own thoughts and being able to write or journal/blog here, allows for expression not accepted anywhere else in the world, is kinda neat  HA HA, commenting on my own stuff!  

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I want to keep writing. is this my blog?  i think i have wanted a blog, but just getting some stuff out will help.  

I have never had help with my ASD. Getting diagnosed was my decision and i felt better when i got it because it meant i didn't have to complain, and try so hard.  less condemning myself for things i don't want to do.  after all, by a third day after i do or say something which has upset either me or a family member, it's hard getting back to feeling safe with myself or others. 

right now, I am leading a quiet life, less talking, and I feel like sleeping a lot.  someone mentioned depression.  I don't want to believe them, but find myself recognizing symptoms like wanting to sleep and loss of appetite.  

less speech seems like a cope too

I want things to go back to where i was before a decision i made to spend time with someone who i consider an aquaintance.  we spent at least 5 hours talking over coffee, and it seems the 'depression' has set in since the day after that.  I also have been eating poorly, not able to stop myself from eating sugary food, etc, and eat these 'tasty' things instead of food which is nourishing.  Also very much 'picky eating' has come back I notice. I had that bad as a kid.  i call myself that word. it was when i was probably between 6 and 12 years of age, im guessing, or so.  I would eat crispy critters for dinner. a sugary cereal, and would not do without them.  

definitely needed to improve my life, but went on through without help til i was 20. i am sad about that.  i want to do some things suggested in my courses, here.  I want to eat right and avoid sugar and get back some vitality so i can do my best because i am sinking kind of right now. it's true it is an in and out thing for defense mode.  I can do this because of the material i own from this site.  how can i thank them??  they give me cheer to think about how they encourage and don't condemn like so many people i know. but i want to mention that my acquaintance did not condemn me about anything. just took too much out of me, I think.  Thanks for reading. 

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