We live in a very interesting age.
The age of google, and youtube, and ebooks, and siri.
All of the knowledge in the world is at your fingertips 24/7
And yet, one of the biggest questions we get still is How.
How do I do X?
And yes, information overload plays a part in this, in which there is so much info that you dont know who to trust.
But just as big of a part is your world view.
There are really 2 views:
Life is happening to me
I am happening to life
In the first one, you give up all control and personal power by blaming everything else in life.
Don’t like your job but can’t get a new one? It must be the economy.
Having a bad relationship with your son or daughter? It’s their fault.
School refusing to give you services? Obviously that has nothing at all to do with how you or your child is acting.
On the other hand….
We have “I am happening to life”
Here’s what that looks like:
Don’t like your job, but can’t get a new one? Keep searching, create your own, do all that you have to in order to make it happen. Google. Get advice, guidance, etc
Having a bad relationship? It may be you after all, do some inner work to see how you can change.
School refusing to give you services? Try a different approach, a different school etc.
Sounds simple enough right?
There’s one catch:
The good stuff you take credit for.. but you gotta take credit for the bad too.
In other words… your failures are a direct result of YOU. Not anyone else.
But instead of wallowing in self pity… try dusting yourself off, learning from your mistakes, and trying again with your new knowledge.
And parents.. this applies just as much to you as it does to anyone else. You are definitely not excluded from this message.