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Parents: Raising someone with Asperger's alone sucks. It can feel extremely alienating to have everyone tell you what is best for your child, that you are doing it wrong, and that your kid is broken.
Therapy & Meds are wonderful, but what happens during your every day life? Do you have support for the times that you aren't visiting a doctor, talking to a teacher or reading a book?
With our AE+ support group, you get 24/7/365 support from a worldwide network of caring individuals who get it because they are going through similar struggles. We can all get through this easier together. Will you join us?
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Defense Mode is one of the 4 core pillars of the AE Model. This is a state in which someone with Asperger’s is scared, frustrated, or angry, as well as shut down and & withdrawn.
In Defense Mode, everything is harder because you are constantly trying to protect against an imminent, perceived, but extremely vague threat. The perceived threat creates the same anxiety as a true life threatening situation. Fortunately, the vast majority are not actual threats, but merely signals that the brain perceives as threats.
From an outside perspective Defense Mode can look like someone who is unmotivated, unwilling, uncooperative or “rude”. With limited understanding, all of those are accurate to a point. They miss, however, the key understanding of Defense Mode.
Asperger Experts is a transformational media company based out of Seattle, Washington that enlivens, empowers and educates people with Asperger's, their families, and the communities in which they live.
It was created in 2012 and is staffed by parents, people with Asperger's, and professionals dedicated to serving and assisting others through sharing knowledge and building communities.
With literally hundreds of thousands of parents, teachers, caregivers, and people with Asperger’s following us on social media, reading our emails, and asking for advice, we feel deeply honored to be able to positively impact so many lives.
Now, enough from us. Here's what our clients, customers and community member's have to say about our work.
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Asperger’s is a neurological condition that causes one to become overwhelmed by sensation, be unable to connect socially with their peers, and withdraw into a world of their creation. The term Asperger’s has actually been phased out and has been replaced with Autism Spectrum Disorder.
However, we still use the word Asperger’s because it still holds a lot of meaning to people.
A lot of people still identify with the term "Asperger's", they still know what it means and they’re familiar with it, so we like to simply think of it like a Mac or PC: It’s just a different operating system. Continue reading...
In our work at Asperger Experts, questions regarding Influence are the most asked type of question. Things like “How do I get my child to do their homework?” or “How do I stop myself from having anxious thoughts?”
A parent will try to get their kid to do homework by yelling at them or threatening consequences (outpouring of energy), but instead of being motivated, the kid will sink deeper into Defense Mode and withdraw & shut down further (the resulting effect).
Whenever we look at this system, we use the framework of Influence Circles to understand, evaluate and troubleshoot the issue. Continue reading...
Why do people with Asperger’s sometimes smell like the inside of an onion that has been rotting in a graveyard for a century? Or to put it another way, why do people with Asperger’s often struggle with hygiene issues?
It’s not that they aren’t motivated. It’s not that they don’t care. Often, it’s just that they are so deep into Defense Mode that they don’t have enough energy to care.
To be clear, hygiene is on their priority list! It’s just #27, and they only have enough energy for #1-3, which would be basic life functions (eating, sleeping, etc), getting through the day (school or work), and keeping it all together. Often when someone with AS is in Defense Mode, there simply isn’t enough energy left to do anything else.
But assuming you are already helping someone with Asperger’s get out of Defense Mode, what are some things you can do to help them specifically with their hygiene? Continue reading...
This is an interview with friend of AE, co-facilitator of Deep Into Defense Mode Live, SE & Tipi practitioner, and all around amazing person, Eva Angvert Harren of BEAM LiFE coaching.
We all want happiness, we all want love, we all want connection. The problem is, many of us get in the way of ourselves. The Getting Unstuck Process is a simple way to identify and resolve the blocks that are holding you back from a full life.
When we first discovered how to get unstuck, it completely transformed our lives. The knowledge of this process is the singular most important piece of information we've ever come across in our entire lives and it has made every single part of our lives infinitely better, given us a TON more confidence & clarity, and allowed us to finally relax and be ok with who we are as a person.
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What do you do if someone with Asperger’s is addicted to video games?
First, we have to understand the cause of video game addictions. Some people would say that the screens and games are designed to pull them in and keep them addicted. Some would say that they just don’t want to be a part of the outside world. Some people have no idea.
The current widely accepted model of addiction comes from the idea that the thing that the person is addicted to (whether that be video games, cocaine, alcohol, phones, etc) is the thing that is causing the addiction.
In other words, drugs cause people to be addicted to drugs, video games cause people to be addicted to video games, etc.
And so under that assumption, treatment centers, types of therapy and all manner of programs have been created to train people not to need the “substance”. Continue reading for an alternate view...
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About Asperger Experts
Asperger Experts is a transformational media company based out of Seattle, Washington that enlivens, empowers and educates people with Asperger's, their families, and the communities in which they live.
It was created in 2012 and is staffed by parents, people with Asperger's, and professionals dedicated to serving and assisting others through sharing knowledge and building communities.
The core of our work focuses on planning, producing and distributing highly transformational courses, as well as creating and managing online communities for people with Asperger’s and their parents.
Our courses are all created by us, drawing from our first hand experience having either lived with Asperger’s, or raised someone on the spectrum.
Our communities are filled with parents, people with Asperger’s, teachers, therapists and others who have had direct and personal experience with life on the spectrum.
We believe in taking our own life experiences and sharing them with the world, and are fortunate to reach over a quarter million people each day with our live videos, courses, workshops, articles and videos.
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