"For 20 years, my husband and I have done everything we can to help our daughter grow in her life. She is now 26. We have spent thousands of dollars, read hundreds of books, seen multiple counselors, had endless meetings and tried countless things throughout her life to help her to have a prosperous life.
With her high school graduation, we lost many of our resources and she lost most of her contact with others. We have tried to encourage her to develop relationships with those in our church and through volunteer work, but her interest is inconsistent. We remodeled a part of our home into a studio apartment for her, hoping to help her develop independent living skills and she was making progress.
Two years ago, however, she had a life threatening illness and all the progress toward independence seemed to vanish when she was so ill. She had to be dependent on us in the year she was sick. (It turned out she had Crohn’s Disease.) She’s been well for about a year now, but seemed to be stuck. She wasn’t taking care of herself or her environment. Her hygiene was poor, she laid around all day watching TV, she put on a lot of weight, and her living conditions were a mess. Her dad and I were becoming frustrated and hopeless. Nothing seemed to work to help our situation.
Then AE came into our lives.
I saw an ad for Aspergers Experts on Facebook and thought ~ yeah right! (sarcasm) I clicked on it anyway even though I was skeptical. After all our “experts” this was probably just more of the same. I was wrong.
From the beginning of the videos, I could feel my excitement growing. Here are people who are telling me how Kaitlin thinks, how to communicate, how to see below the surface of the situation. I could see her in you. You break things down so it’s perfectly clear. Plus, your videos are fun to watch ~ you guys have a great sense of humor.
I started watching your videos like they were life support ~ which they are. I tried things you suggested and they worked! Understanding that her anger comes from her rules has been life changing. It’s opened up conversations as she tries to identify her rules. I’m learning so much about her now and she’s learning a lot about herself. We’re making progress. I have hope again.
The best part about it is that she is excited also. She identifies with you. She’s even spent some of her own money for a camera for her computer so she can skype with you at some point. She has questions she’d like to ask. She is currently babysitting a boy with Aspergers and she’s also learning how to better help him.
You came into our lives unexpectedly and have made such a difference in a short time. I am so grateful for this blessing.
Thank you Thank you Thank you!" - Cheryl Allen
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Dive into a greater understanding of life on the spectrum with these stories & explanation videos.
"When Jackson was little, as we were figuring things out, noises would set him off. He was a loner and wouldn't interact with other kids and other people. With my other kids, they'd run up and give hugs and spend time with family and friends. When they cried, they'd come to my wife and me. But Jackson wasn't like that. When he cried, he would push away and run away. My wife was his person and still is his person, and every now and then he'll come up and give her squeezes.
It was hard for me because he wouldn't relate to me on the level I wanted him to, and it felt like he didn't like me. I was just so used to kids that would show their affection. So he and I didn't have much of a relationship. During the times that I would want to be there for him as a dad, when I could tell he needed something, he wouldn't let me be there. When he was just a kid running around, he wanted to be by himself and do his own thing.
I'm a very loving person. I like hugs, and I'm pretty outgoing, so for me, it was really hard. It was really hard to think that this kid that I love with all my heart, might never have a relationship with me, or that I wouldn't be able to talk to him or help him when he had questions. He didn't understand what I was trying to do to help. He didn't see what I was trying to do as being helpful. It just broke my heart.
It wasn't until around the age of eight or maybe nine that he started to realize that I cared about him and that I was actually smart and knew a couple of things. He's highly intellectual and loves to have deep conversations, so when we left the area of needing purely emotional support to more of being able to have advanced conversations, we finally started to build our relationship."
The Accountability Plan
If you struggle with holding your child on the spectrum accountable, enforcing boundaries and ensuring follow-through while at the same time being sensitive their needs & struggles, this course is for you.
We'll take you by the hand, and give you a comprehensive, step-by-step plan that shows you exactly how to navigate the fine line between enabling and supporting.
Mistakes In Building Trust
4 Types of Useful Feedback
"I Can't" VS "I Can't Yet"
Dealing with "I Don't Know"
Codependency & Unhealthy Relationships
When To Let It Go & When To Put Your Foot Down
Ways To Steer & Suggest