Where To Start & What To Focus On

About This Course

"I've tried so many different things to help my child and I just don't know how to best proceed."

If you struggle with knowing the next steps, finding the right answer and understanding your Asperger child's behaviors, this course is for you. We'll take you by the hand and give you a comprehensive, step-by-step plan that shows you exactly how to navigate the wonderful and sometimes confusing world of raising someone with Asperger's.

Learn our tested process for helping people with Asperger's, based on almost a decade worth of professional knowledge & perspective from working with thousands of families in similar situations, as well as our own experiences of being that child with Asperger's.

At the end of our time together, you'll not only have a solid plan, but you'll know where to start, what to focus on and what to avoid doing at all costs. So if you are ready to finally make progress and get unstuck, you've come to the right place.

This 8 part course is a hybrid of both live & recorded material, designed for parents & caregivers of people on the autistic spectrum (diagnosed or not). Each week, starting as soon as you enroll, you'll get a recorded lesson, that covers both the high level strategy & theory, as well as nuts & bolts examples, situations & scripts, so that you know exactly what to do and how to do it. Feel free to go through the lesson at your own pace, you'll have access to it for life.

Then, every Monday at 2:00 PM Pacific Time (5:00 PM Eastern Time) and every Wednesday at 5 PM Pacific Time (8:00 PM Eastern Time) for 8 weeks, you'll have the opportunity to participate in a live Q&A phone session with your fellow students and the AE Staff. This is your chance to get some personalized coaching, clarification and help with your specific challenges as well as learn from others. We'll send you the full recording of those calls once they are completed.

Includes Group Phone Consults Twice Weekly

For 8 weeks after you purchase the course, you'll get access to our twice weekly question and answer consultation sessions with the AE Staff. This is your chance to get clarification, help with your specific challenges and learn from others. We'll send out the recording to those calls once they are completed.

These calls happen every Monday at 2:00 PM Pacific Time (5:00 PM Eastern Time) and every Wednesday at 5 PM Pacific Time (8:00 PM Eastern Time)

About Asperger Experts

The people at Asperger Experts, who created this course, are the world's largest organization by & for individuals & families on the Autism spectrum. Every day they help thousands of families, teens, young adults & professionals navigate the complex world of Asperger's & Autism with real, first-person accounts & advice from people who've actually lived it and are diagnosed with Asperger's themselves.

In This Course, You'll Learn About...

Meltdowns & Overwhelm

What to do in the moment, what to say to help them calm down, and what to avoid doing at all costs.

Perspectives & Problem Solving

How to know when there is a problem, when to push, and when to let go.

Building Relationships & Trust

The 4 part plan to repair broken trust & strengthen relationships.

Understanding Defense Mode

Why do they get shut down and withdraw, and what can you do about it?

Who Is This Class For?

Great For...

Parents & Caregivers

Teachers, Therapists & Other Professionals

Not So Great For...

Individuals With Asperger's (This Is A Parent Focused Course)

Parents who aren't willing to examine their own habits & beliefs

Course Curriculum

Part 1: Get Clarity

What Are You Optimizing For?

Before we even start to think about getting past the obstacles that are in our way, and dealing with the problems that life gives us, it is very, VERY important to make sure we are clear on what specific actions we are taking, what we are optimizing for, and why.

Understand The Real Problem

Before we start solving the problem, we have to first make sure we truly understand it. If we continue to act on the assumption of (for example) willful defiance when the problem is that your child hasn't eaten all day (or anything else), then we end up making the problem worse, not better.

Part 2: Get Aligned

Avoiding Accidental Sabotage

Once we are clear on where we are going and what we are optimizing for, it is time to make sure that we aren't accidentally sabotaging the process through conflicting desires & intents.

Aligning Your Intents

Often, when people fail at this step, its because they have a conflict between their outer desire and intent and their inner desire and intent. For example, let’s say there is a parent whose 25 year old son lives in the basement and plays video games all day. On one hand, they want their child to become independent and move out... but on the other hand, they might be terrified of the possibility that their child might face catastrophic failure, so... they tend to unconsciously sabotage the progress they make so that they don't need to face the discomfort of changing the status quo.

Part 3: Get Understanding

Emotional Resource Theory

People do the best they can with the emotional capacity they have. Thats the core understanding of this section. We'll look at the science of Emotional Resource Theory & Defense Mode, understand the biological basis for fear, stress & overwhelm, and then delve deep into motivation & capacity issues.

What To Do When

Know when to step in, when that action turns into enabling, and learn about our simple framework for knowing how & when to motivate someone on the spectrum.

Part 4: Build The Relationship

Building Trust & Repairing Relationships

Now its time to build trust. To feel heard. To talk (and more importantly) listen. Truly listen. This is the step where we build (and sometimes mend) relationships. Where we follow the specific recipe for building trust, and where we demonstrate our caring in ways that get through to the other person.

Avoid Common Relationship Pitfalls

How to avoid common relationship pitfalls in order to stay on track, stay focused, and stay calm, confident & clear.

Deep Listening

How to help them feel safe and secure... without saying a single word.

Part 5: Sit Down & Talk

Productive Conversations

At the end of the day, rationalizing & talking with people who are currently overwhelmed & stressed isn't a good way to go about instigating change. However, at the same time, some conversations just need to happen! So how do you have those conversations in a productive way?

Conversation Strategies

Learn our simple conversational flow that acknowledges and works WITH someones overwhelm and emotional capacity, instead of against it, so you can actually move forward.

Part 6: Now You Take Action

Creating A Plan & Taking Action

First, we'll co-create a plan together, using all the tools you've learned in the previous sections. Then, using that plan, we'll help you take action. Consistent, dependable action.

What To Expect

We'll show you what to expect, what to focus on, and most importantly, how to make sure you have enough emotional capacity to be able to follow through on a regular basis.

Part 7: Course Correction & Problem Solving

When It Goes Wrong

What do you do when things go wrong? How do you course correct? Instead of acting without a plan, we'll ensure you have the tools, strategies & scripts you need so that when things go wrong, you'll be ready.

Finding Solutions On Your Own

Learn how to think through the problems & stuck points you face, and be able to adjust your actions when necessary.

Part 8: "Yeah, but..." & "What if?"

Video Game Addictions

When is it a problem, when do you need to step in, and when can you step back?

How To Say No

Setting & enforcing boundaries so you can say no, mean it, and be heard.

Common Mistakes

Avoid the common mistakes people make when working through this process.

Frequently Asked Questions

When does the course start?

The main course is on demand, and you'll get access for life as soon as you enroll. Q&A happens twice weekly, every Monday at 2:00 PM Pacific Time (5:00 PM Eastern Time) and every Wednesday at 5 PM Pacific Time (8:00 PM Eastern Time), and the recordings will be sent to you after.

What devices does the course work on?

We support all modern devices that can access the internet. So that's things like laptops, desktops, iPads & other tablets, smartphones, etc.

You are also welcome to download our free app from your App Store to access your courses and participate in community discussions. Just search "Asperger Experts".

Can I access the class on more than 1 device?

Absolutely. You can login to your account and access the class from any modern device (computer, laptop, tablet, smartphone, etc). You'll have lifetime access to the course materials.

Is this course for me or my children?

This course is designed for parents, so we highly suggest that parents go through the course first and then offer it to their kids (if they are interested at all).

We DO NOT suggest buying this course for someone in Defense Mode without going through it first yourself. It won't do much good.

What happens if I can't make the Q&A calls?

No problem! Just comment below a course lesson or email us at [email protected] As a reminder, Q&A calls happen every Monday at 2:00 PM Pacific Time (5:00 PM Eastern Time) and every Wednesday at 5 PM Pacific Time (8:00 PM Eastern Time), and the recordings will be sent to you after.