For the last couple of years Danny was in high school, we hired a couple of young ladies who acted as mentors/friends/homework enforcers. We outsourced the nagging to them so that it didn't become a family stress point and so that they could work out the homework thing together. That seemed to help quite a lot.
We found this one woman from a friend who worked at the university, and then her sister was the other person because she couldn't do it more than one day a week. In our community, high school students are required to have volunteer hours in order to graduate. And I can think of a whole bunch of high school seniors who would have been very mature and very capable of sitting down with Danny, and being patient, and knowing that they're his friend, and helping him get the homework done.
The beauty of all that is it took the stress away from our relationship with Danny
Dive into a greater understanding of life on the spectrum with these stories & explanation videos.
"Time to be real with you. Sometimes, life with Asperger’s can suck. A lot.
Whether you are raising someone on the spectrum, are on the spectrum yourself, or both, there are times when you're going to be disappointed. There are times when you're going to be extremely frustrated. There are times when you don't know how on earth you are going to continue, because it feels like your entire world is falling apart before your very eyes.
There are times where you are so anxious that you feel like you're going to die.
I've had all of those moments and then some. My name is Danny Raede, and I was diagnosed with Asperger’s when I was twelve. Since 2012, I’ve been running Asperger Experts full time. It’s a company that is equally based in the personal experience of having Asperger’s, the latest science and cutting edge research, and the experience of working professionally with, at the time of writing this, over five hundred thousand people.
So yes, this is hard sometimes, and the problem is compounded because the world is not set up for people with Asperger's. It's hard enough for neurotypical people to live in the world, and it is just that much harder for people with Asperger’s to go about living in a way that works well for them and gives them joy and fulfillment.
But it doesn’t have to be that way forever. In fact, once you understand some basic ideas, gain some necessary tools, and implement some effective strategies, life can be as enjoyable as you want it to be, Asperger’s or not.
What you hold in your hands is both a story of how I managed to build an enjoyable life, despite having Asperger’s and ADD, and a toolkit that gives you extremely simple and actionable information, tools, and resources so that you, too, can live a fulfilling life."