The Accountability Plan
How to hold someone with Asperger's accountable ...without enabling, excuses, or walking on eggshells.
About This Course
"It's hard finding that balance of trying to be sensitive to his needs and not putting him in Defense Mode and pushing him enough to expand his world."
If you struggle with holding your child on the spectrum accountable, enforcing boundaries and ensuring follow-through while at the same time being sensitive their needs & struggles, this course is for you. We'll take you by the hand, and give you a comprehensive, step-by-step plan that shows you exactly how to navigate the fine line between enabling and supporting.
Learn our tested accountability process, based on almost a decade worth of professional knowledge & perspective from working with thousands of families in similar situations, as well as our own experiences of being that child with Asperger's.
At the end of our time together, you'll not only have a solid plan, but you'll know when to push, when to let go, and how to ensure consistent follow-through... without any walking on eggshells, excuses or enabling. So if you are ready to finally make progress and get unstuck, you've come to the right place.
This 8 part course is a hybrid of both live & recorded material, designed for parents & caregivers of people on the autistic spectrum (diagnosed or not). Each week, starting as soon as you enroll, you'll get access to through a recorded lesson & discussion, that covers both the high level strategy & theory, as well as nuts & bolts examples, situations & scripts, so that you know exactly what to do and how to do it. Feel free to go through the lesson at your own pace, you'll have access to it for life.
Then, every Monday at 2:00 PM Pacific Time (5:00 PM Eastern Time) and every Wednesday at 5 PM Pacific Time (8:00 PM Eastern Time) for next 8 weeks, you'll have the opportunity to participate in a live Q&A phone session with your fellow students and the AE Staff. This is your chance to get some personalized coaching, clarification and help with your specific challenges as well as learn from others. We'll send you the full recording of those calls once they are completed.
What Will I Learn?
How to find the motivators that push them into action on their own (so you don't need to constantly nag).
Who Is This Class For?
"I have a hard time determining "can't" and "won't" for my child."
In this first part, we'll show you the fundamental difference between can't & won't, and help you understand why people with Asperger's are the way they are and how they think. Then we'll outline the basics of getting yourself & your child out of Defense Mode.
"I'm really frustrated and confused and I don't know what to do next"
It's extremely frustrating to not know what to do and just blindly try things, hoping they work. This part is all about giving you a tested & proven plan, so that you know what to do next, and more importantly, know what not to do.
"It feels like I'm talking to a wall."
In order to help your child transition to independence, you'll need to have a lot of conversations with them, so this is the part where we teach you what to say in order to have conversations that break through “the wall” and get productive responses.
"It doesn't seem like they are motivated to do anything other than play video games all day long"
In this part, we'll show you how to ask the strategic questions in order to help your child find what motivates them, pick a direction and stick with it. Then we'll teach you when to offer advice, and when to simply offer emotional support.
"We were making progress but now I feel like we are stuck and haven't made progress for months"
This part is all about finding and removing the blocks & barriers that prevent your child from moving forward toward independence. We'll also show you what to do when they get overwhelmed and stop making progress.
"It feels like they walk all over me. I don't even know what my boundaries are!"
People on the spectrum often do well with clearly defined structure & boundaries. In this part, we will help you identify and enforce your boundaries so that your child doesn't walk all over you (and you don't need to walk on eggshells).
"We created a plan, and they seemed to agree to it at first, but now they just ignore it and I don't know what to do"
This Part is all about creating a specific kind of written Accountability Plan that EVERYONE agrees to and follows through on, so that you don't need to constantly nag them asking, "Did you do the thing yet?".
"Help! I'm stuck again!"
New problems and new challenges are inevitable. So this final part is all about how to resolve new issues as they present themselves. You’ll learn when to pivot and when to put your head down and stay on the same path. This is also our "catch-all" section for anything that we did not cover previously, and questions that were raised during the course that need a bit more time to answer.