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The Accountability Plan

How to hold someone with Asperger's accountable ...without enabling, excuses, or walking on eggshells.

Great For Parents, Caregivers, & Extended Family

About This Class

"It's hard finding that balance of trying to be sensitive to his needs and not putting him in Defense Mode and pushing him enough to expand his world."

If you struggle with holding your child on the spectrum accountable, enforcing boundaries and ensuring follow-through while at the same time being sensitive their needs & struggles, this course is for you. We'll take you by the hand over the next 8 weeks, and give you a comprehensive, step-by-step plan that shows you exactly how to navigate the fine line between enabling and supporting.

Learn our tested accountability process, based on almost a decade worth of professional knowledge & perspective from working with thousands of families in similar situations, as well as our own experiences of being that child with Asperger's.

At the end of our 8 weeks together, you'll not only have a solid plan, but you'll know when to push, when to let go, and how to ensure consistent follow-through... without any walking on eggshells, excuses or enabling. So if you are ready to finally make progress and get unstuck, you've come to the right place.

This 8 week course is a hybrid of both live & recorded material, designed for parents & caregivers of people on the autistic spectrum (diagnosed or not). Each week, you'll get a recorded lesson & discussion, that covers both the high level strategy & theory, as well as nuts & bolts examples, situations & scripts, so that you know exactly what to do and how to do it. Feel free to go through the lesson at your own pace, you'll have access to it for life. Then, every Wednesday, you'll have the opportunity to participate in a live Q&A phone session with your fellow students and the AE Staff. This is your chance to get some personalized coaching, clarification and help with your specific challenges as well as learn from others. We'll send you the full recording of those calls once they are completed.

We know that sometimes you need help right in the moment, and can't wait until next Wednesday's call, so a private Q&A discussion forum will also be available online so you can get your questions answered by your fellow students & the AE staff on a timetable that works for you.

NOTE: In order to keep class sizes small so that everyone can participate, there are a very limited number of spots available for this class. Enroll today as we start on September 28th.

What Will I Learn?

Mistakes In Building Trust
Avoid the most common mistakes parents make when trying to build trust and strengthen their relationship with their kids.
4 Types of Useful Feedback
While most feedback gets rejected or ignored by people with Asperger's, these 4 types of feedback get through.
Mutual Motivation
How to find the motivators that push them into action on their own (so you don't need to constantly nag).
Ways To Say No
What to do & what to say when you need to hold a firm boundary that they can't ignore.

Who Is This Class For?

Great For...
Parents & Caregivers
Extended family who want to get on the same page & learn how to best be supportive
Not So Great For...
Parents who aren't willing to examine their own habits & beliefs

Class Curriculum

Week 1: Emotional Resource Theory

"I have a hard time determining "can't" and "won't" for my child."

In this first week, we'll show you the fundamental difference between can't & won't, and help you understand why people with Asperger's are the way they are and how they think. Then we'll outline the basics of getting yourself & your child out of Defense Mode.

Topics Include:

Understanding Overwhelm
What happens internally when someone with Asperger's is overwhelmed, and how do you help them feel less stressed?
Signs of Defense Mode
How do you know when someone is in Defense Mode, and what do you do about it once you know?
Getting Your Child Out Of Defense Mode
When your child is in Defense Mode, they will be resistant to most suggestions & advice (which makes it really hard to make progress!). This is how you get them out
Week 2: Prioritizing Your Focus

"I'm really frustrated and confused and I dont know what to do next"

It's extremely frustrating to not know what to do and just blindly try things, hoping they work. This week is all about giving you a tested & proven plan, so that you know what to do next, and more importantly, know what not to do.

Topics Include:

When To Let It Go & When To Put Your Foot Down
How do you know when to accept something, and when to put your foot down?
Prioritizing Your Start Point
With so many options that you've tried, where do you even begin?
Questions To Point You In The Right Direction
How do you find the right direction when you are lost and confused? It starts with asking the right questions to get clarity & refocus.
Week 3: Start The Conversation

"It feels like I'm talking to a wall."

In order to help your child transition to independence, you'll need to have a lot of conversations with them, so this is the week where we teach you what to say in order to have conversations that break through “the wall” and get productive responses.

Topics Include:

Magic Words
Simple words & phrases you can use to get your child to listen, hear you and internalize what you have to say
Ways To Steer & Suggest
What are the 2 major ways to give them advice & steer them in the right direction... so that they actually listen?
Hidden Parts To Asperger's Communication
People with Asperger's respond to certain types of communication, but not others. What are they and how do they work?
Week 4: Understand The Path

"It doesn't seem like they are motivated to do anything other than play video games all day long"

In this week, we'll show you how to ask the strategic questions in order to help your child find what motivates them, pick a direction and stick with it. Then we'll teach you when to offer advice, and when to simply offer emotional support.

Topics Include:

Asking Strategic Questions
Learn how to ask the right questions so that you can figure out what’s really going on (the root cause), without getting distracted or drifting off course.
Holding Space
What do you do when they need someone to listen, but don't want any help or advice?
Finding The Roadblocks
How do you help them find the roadblocks that are preventing them from making progress?
Week 5: Remove The Roadblocks

"We were making progress but now I feel like we are stuck and haven't made progress for months"

This week is all about finding and removing the blocks & barriers that prevent your child from moving forward toward independence. We'll also show you what to do when they get overwhelmed and stop making progress.

Topics Include:

Offering Choices & Holding Boundaries
4 kinds of choices that create progress AND help you hold your boundaries
Dealing with "I Don't Know"
How do you respond when they constantly say "I don't know" when asked a question
Dealing With Lying
Whats the best way to deal with your child when they are lying and hiding things from you?
Week 6: Hold Your Boundaries

"It feels like they walk all over me. I don't even know what my boundaries are!"

People on the spectrum often do well with clearly defined structure & boundaries. In this week, we will help you identify and enforce your boundaries so that your child doesn't walk all over you (and you don't need to walk on eggshells).

Topics Include:

Codependency & Unhealthy Relationships
How do you know when you’re enabling someone? What do you do if you find yourself stuck in an unhealthy relationship?
Alternatives to "No"
What to say when you can't just say no
Dealing With Video Game Addictions
The more they play, they more agitated they become. How do you help your child if they are addicted to video games?
Week 7: Plan for Accountability

"We created a plan, and they seemed to agree to it at first, but now they just ignore it and I don't know what to do"

This week is all about creating a specific kind of written Accountability Plan that EVERYONE agrees to and follows through on, so that you don't need to constantly nag them asking, "Did you do the thing yet?".

Topics Include:

How to Measure
Before holding someone accountable, you need to know what to measure, how to measure it, and if they are making progress against that measurement.
Creating The Plan
How do you create an Accountability Plan that will actually solve the problem and get results?
Example Plans
We'll show you examples of Accountability Plans from real families that have been demonstrated to work.
Week 8: Pivot or Persevere

"Help! I'm stuck again!"

New problems and new challenges are inevitable. So this final week is all about how to resolve new issues as they present themselves. You’ll learn when to pivot and when to put your head down and stay on the same path. This is also our "catch-all" week for anything that we did not cover previously, and questions that were raised during the course that need a bit more time to answer.

Topics Include:

Course Correction
What do you do when the plan isn't working (and how do you tweak it so that it does?)
"I Can't" VS "I Can't Yet"
How to teach consistent followthrough & commitment... instead of trying something once and giving up.
Building Healthy Habits
How do you help your child build consistent & healthy habits that will increase their independence?

Class Schedule

Week 1: Emotional Resource Theory
September 28th - 6 AM PDT
Week 1 released
September 30th - 4:45 PM PDT
Live Q&A Session
Week 2: Prioritizing Your Focus
October 5th - 6 AM PDT
Week 2 released
October 7th - 4:45 PM PDT
Live Q&A Session
Week 3: Start The Conversation
October 12th - 6 AM PDT
Week 3 released
October 14th - 4:45 PM PDT
Live Q&A Session
Week 4: Understand The Path
October 19th - 6 AM PDT
Week 4 released
October 21st - 4:45 PM PDT
Live Q&A Session
Week 5: Remove The Roadblocks
October 26th - 6 AM PDT
Week 5 released
October 28th - 4:45 PM PDT
Live Q&A Session
Week 6: Hold Your Boundaries
November 2nd - 6 AM PDT
Week 6 released
November 4th - 4:45 PM PDT
Live Q&A Session
Week 7: Plan for Accountability
November 9th - 6 AM PDT
Week 7 released
November 11th - 4:45 PM PDT
Live Q&A Session
Week 8: Pivot or Persevere
November 16th - 6 AM PDT
Week 8 released
November 18th - 4:45 PM PDT
Live Q&A Session


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Online, Hybrid Live & Recorded Course
8 Weeks of Lessons & Q&A
Enrollment Ends On September 27th @ 9 PM Pacific
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Frequently Asked Questions

Which portions of the class are live and which are recorded?

Each week we'll send you 1 recorded lecture, which is yours to keep and something you can watch & listen to at your own pace. Then every Wednesday at 4:45 PM Pacific Time for the length of the 8 week course, we'll invite you to join us for a live Q&A session where you can call in and get your questions answered by the AE Staff, and hear from others going through the course.

What happens if I can't attend the live Q&A calls?

No problem! Just post your question in our dedicated class forum and we'll answer them there!

Can I access the class on more than 1 device?

Absolutely. You can login to your account and access the class from any modern device (computer, laptop, tablet, smartphone, etc). You'll have lifetime access to the course materials.

What happens if I can't make that weeks class?

No problem! We send you each weeks lesson as a recorded lecture, so you can listen to it at your own pace. It never expires. Q&A Calls happen every Wednesday at 4:45 PM PDT and the recordings will be sent to you after.

If I'm outside the USA, can I still join the class?

Absolutely! This class is open to anyone worldwide.

Is this class for me or my child?

This class is designed for parents, caregivers & extended family. If you want your child to attend, they are welcome to, but you may also be interested in our co-occuring class specific for them, called "Breaking Free: The 8 Simple Steps To An Independent & Thriving Life".

Have a question that wasn't covered? Email us at help@aspergerexperts.com to get in touch.
Have a question that wasn't covered? Email us at help@aspergerexperts.com to get in touch.
Susie Murray

   7 of 7 members found this review helpful 7 / 7 members

Thank you so much for the Accountability Plan course. I am really happy I signed up and it was a perfect flow & amount of time each week. The books, stories, and quotes mentioned got me delving into other areas which is great. I'm a medical sales rep and this training is helpful in my professional life too. The most important thing I learned is that it's essential to be out of defense mode as much as possible. I have started using strategies with my son (19) already - especially working on the very best way to address questions about projects that are important to get done (like getting a blood lab draw) and writing down the ways it could go easier (agreeing on this list together) and then not stressing (staying positive) when he says no, not this week, I'm not ready and then trying the question or a rephrase again the next week. The educator is excellent and I love that you stressed that the trust has to be there first. I am lucky and have this, but the instructor had great strategies for folks that don't have this and need to build this up.  Very helpful!

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Janet Jones

   3 of 3 members found this review helpful 3 / 3 members

I recommend every parent bundle this course, if your child is willing.

I took this course in support of my young adult son, and am thankful I did.  I was grateful to see how my lessons paralleled his.  They gave me language and insights to better encourage and support him.  

I learned I must slow down and prompt him to dream more. It gave me words he needed to consider and simply try things without fearing failure. It confirmed the need to limit objectives, and helped me see the need for much smaller, detailed steps for each.

He has already gained some confidence through experiencing some success. It reminded me to praise and celebrate them with him. 

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